I don't know if it's because I'm a queer person who doesn't subscribe to gender roles anymore, or because I know so much about Kink/Bondage Culture; the concept of expected gender roles in general but especially in a relationship, do not make since to me anymore.

In Kink, gender roles are part of sex play. In that play, those roles do not generally cross over into day to day life.  It's a roll one plays to reach sexual gratification.

In the outside world, some people do chose to apply them to themselves because that is what they're comfortable with.

The issue is when gender roles are a part of societal rules in which everyone must be a part of.

People are individuals and people have to be who they feel most comfortable being.

I like to play with gender.  I also view clothing as just interesting cloth in which we hide our nakedness as well as communicate/express ourselves.  I feel the same with makeup or what I like to call face paint.  It's art.  We make ourselves into art.  We make ourselves attractive to other humans or to even repel other humans.