People can be really dissapointing in their short sightedness.  I admit to my own as well in terms of supporting people who have exhibited behavior that I would never do.

I guess I've always felt like I could accept people for who they were as long as they did the same for me.  However, there are lines that must be drawn.  I also can't be accepting of some things that people do that bother me.  There's always a tipping of the iceberg with people that I know.  So in essence, I'm not accepting of certain behaviors, I just try to push that feeling away.  Because they're manipulating me and I accept the manipulation.  But that's pretty toxic and I don't want to be in toxic relationships with people.

I have control over my life.  I don't have to live the way it was when I was a kid with my parents.  People need to be accountable for their actions and I need to be accountable for honoring myself.

I've always been like the mother and taking care of people and their issues.  I'm not a therapist and I can't help you have a better life.  Friendships are the icing to an already good life.  Helping each other is a good thing, but a friendship shouldn't exist on that alone.

And if you're not already woke, we can't be friends.  It won't work, it never has.  There is not friendship there